It's hard to find that special someone, but when that special someone lives far away it presents a whole new set of challenges. It may be that he's always lived far away, or circumstances may have changed so that being apart is new for both of you. Either way, there are certain questions you should answer before deciding to embark on a long distance relationship. Agreeing on the answers, will play a big part in whether or not you should give a long distance relationship a try.

* How often will you see each other? There is a big difference between seeing each other once a month and once a year. Of course this will largely depend on just how far apart you live. Unless your budget is unlimited you will probably be able to see each other more if you are within driving distance than if you need to take a plane.
* How will you communicate when you're apart? At least these days a long distance relationship doesn't have to mean huge long distance phone bills and mailing lots of letters. Still, it's good to have some idea of how often you'll talk on the phone versus communicating by text or email.
* When will you be together for good? Everything is easier when we know what to expect. Will you be apart for a year or a number of years? If you're in a military situation you may be in store for a huge part of your relationship to be long distance. This is not to say that one situation is better than another, but it's obviously easier to survive long distance for one year rather than many years.
* If it works out will one of you be willing to move? Long distance situations often start as a test period, with the notion that if it works well, then one of you will move. This is where you have to be really honest with yourself. For some people, the most perfect relationship in the world could not make them move. For others, moving isn't a big deal for the right person. If neither of you is the type to move, then you probably don't want to start a long distance relationship.

After thinking through these questions, decide if you are happy with your answers. If you are, then you may have what it takes to survive a long distance relationship. It takes a special kind of couple to make these relationships successful, but long distance relationships actually have a very good chance of turning into permanent relationships once these early hurdles are overcome.

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Tina Tobin is a writer, blogger and creator of the women's relationship advice site LuvEmOrLeavem.com where all advice is centered around the question "Should she love him or leave him?"

Tina Tobin
January 5, 2009

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