TIP #1: LOVE HIM

Don't try to change him. Love him when he snores, leaves dishes in the sink and forgets to take the trash out. AND leaving his towel on the floor doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Love Him anyway. AND don't make it mean anything other than he just didn't do it. Really, he just didn't do it. So love him when he snores like a Pug. Love him when he eats with his mouth open. Love him when he forgets to put the toilet seat down.

TIP #2: FEED HIM

When he asks for a burger and fries from Burger King, don't replace his fries with a salad for his health. For example, I called my husband on my way home - "What do you want for lunch?" He says, "I feel like having a cheeseburger and fries". But what do I hear? Take care of me. Feed me. So I make a really smart choice - I get him a salad instead of fries. He's already having the cheeseburger. He'll thank me afterwards, and most especially when he's 100 years old and still riding a motorcycle. So I proudly walk into the house and bring him his half-healthy fast food lunch. I did my job as a good wife - keep him healthy. "Where are my fries?", he asks. I say, "Honey, the salad is healthier for you. You don't really want all that grease." "YES. I DID. Why did you even ask me what I want?" Oops - lesson learned - listen to what he wants, not what you think is best. When it's time for anniversaries and our birthdays - we get what we want.

TIP #3: PET HIM

Don't tell him what he does wrong or doesn't do. Acknowledge him for what he already does and who he already is. Don't assume he already knows it or that you've said it enough times. Have you ever been in a group conversation where a woman tells on her husband - "Oh he thinks that his job is stable or that this economy's fine. (laugh laugh) What do you say, Jim? You're smart and successful. Shouldn't he take my advise so he doesn't put us on the street?" If you want any man feeling like a schmuck, loser, deadbeat - bring up his shortcomings in front of friends, family, strangers, co-workers. Guess what? Our husbands want positive attention and acknowledgment. When he's acknowledged, he knows he's done right. Acknowledgment reassures, and reinvigorates.

Why we don't do it often, if at all? Some of our conversations (ladies) is that we don't get that from him, so why should he be rewarded with my acknowledgment? Who cares? Stop punishing him and most especially, yourself, by withholding your loving acknowledgment. If you're really committed to a loving, healthy and happy relationship, give up your "right" and justifications and reasons.

Women are creators. We were given the tools and fortitude to carry and bear children. Create the most amazing, inspiring relationship with any man!

Christine Magtoto
March 23, 2009

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