Marceline's 15 Dating Tips On
Creating And
Maintaining Love Connections
1. Visualize and "act as if"
each person you meet really "gets you" - in other words, really
understands you.
2. Make a decision to make each person you meet feel really
comfortable. This will alleviate any nervousness you’re
feeling. Think of yourself as a gracious, charming host/hostess
wherever you are.
3. For the next 30 days concentrate on really liking the
opposite sex - thinking of each one as a safe ally.
4. Become your own best cheerleader and your own best friend -
this will aid you towards "flourishing" in a relationship, not
"needing" a relationship.
5. Always speak well of your family and friends-conversely
avoid a partner who speaks poorly of their friends and
family.
6. The most exciting person to be around is the person who is
excited about their life-be positive and optimistic about your
life.
7. Look for commonalities, not differences-if we all knew what
our "type" was, we wouldn’t be alone. Look for similarities,
enjoy contrasts and be more open-minded.
8. Never give up all your friends and outside interests for
your partner. It’s important to keep the multidimensional
features that made you attractive initially.
9. Treat your partner with kindness and respect. Never take
each other for granted - be best friends.
10. Develop and demonstrate a real interest and support for
your partner’s career, friends & family.
11. Your partner need not know everything about you . Keep a
little mystique.
12. Get in the habit of always putting your partner in the very
best light- give them the benefit of the doubt and concentrate
on what works, not on what doesn’t work.
13. Minimize arguments and confrontations by avoiding the
blaming word "you", as in "you made me late for work." Rather,
use "building bridges" words as in "let’s figure out a new way
to mange our morning schedules." Think and act as a team.
14. Avoid treating your partner like a child, no one wants
another mother. They are not your project!
15. Laugh. Together. A lot.
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