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An elegant small wedding is one of the most beautiful weddings
that can be organized. The budget is not too high, the
attendees are all relaxed and will likely have a good time and
nuances such as children running around and making noise will
be avoided. A wedding without too much frills makes sure that
the love between the couple is the focus of the ceremony.
Etiquette in a small wedding
ATTIRE: Guests are only advised to wear
clothes comfortable to them. A dress from a closet selection, a
white one or even a sundress is appropriate for a small
wedding. A bridesmaid can wear a white dress or even a
pantsuit. The groom can go for khakis, or even jeans paired
with a shirt and a sport coat.
SETTING: A small wedding can be held in a
community center, a local park or even your parents’ backyard.
Holding ceremonies in a unique location such as a rooftop, a
barn, an art gallery can clearly speak about the personalities
of the couple.
INVITATIONS: Invitations in a small wedding
can be handwritten on handmade paper. Send them like writing a
note to a close friend. It is important to note that attendees
should be in casual attire.
FLOWERS: Simple bulbs such as hyacinths or
tulips can serve as alternatives for floral flower
arrangements. Using these will generate huge savings for the
couple. Gerber diaries inserted in a flat container filled with
wheat grass can serve as an attractive centerpiece.
MENU: The menu of a small wedding can be very
diverse. A party can be set a few months before the wedding and
the guests can be asked to bring their favorite recipes. The
couple can choose their favorites and use them as wedding food.
It is also good to acknowledge whose recipe it is by putting a
label in front of every dish. Besides a party, a barbeque or
picnic fare can be held.
REGISTRY: Common retail stores such as Sears
or Target can be used as gift registries. Couples can specify
what they want to receive in order to avoid the usual gift of
expensive China that will likely collect dust in a cabinet.
Costs, costs, costs
Tradition dictates that the bride’s parents are responsible for
paying off the wedding regardless if it is small or big.
However, expenses have become an issue due to the challenging
times. The etiquette in requesting for money is by gathering
both families and discussing how to share in the wedding
expenses, as the couple will unlikely have enough to cover all
of their needs.
The budget will be a major basis on what type of wedding will
be held. The couple needs to meet with everyone who will be
attending. However, the couple cannot force their parents to
shell out money that is not available.
Couples can make various compromises if their budget falls
short. For example, less expensive rings can be used. A more
expensive replacement can be acquired in the future. Some
couples do not even have wedding rings at all. Those living in
a nice climate can have the reception at home and hire catering
services. To help control costs, a butler can be tasked to pass
around hors d’ oeuvres and refreshments.
The parents of the groom traditionally pay for the following
items:
Boutonnieres for groom's attendants
The bride's bouquet
Officiate fee or donation
Rehearsal Dinner
Lodging and transportation expenses of the rabbi or
minister
Corsages for every family member
Transportation of the Groom and Best Man going to the
wedding
Giving tips is a nice way of rewarding those that have given
good service but it is not a requirement. A tip given to a
minister can be seen as a gift for marrying the couple. Tips
can be given to servers, drivers and musicians but still, this
is not a requirement.
The etiquette in service fees
Couples should make sure that they are comfortable with the
people that are helping in the wedding whether it is the
wedding experts, the photographer and even the florists. They
should share the same vision on how the wedding should come out
and not merely focus on how much money will spent.
A couple may receive possibly the lowest price but if the
rendered service does not meet what was promised, the value is
useless, even if it is a small wedding.
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