Non Denominational Or Mixed
Religion
Weddings How To Make It Happen...
Couples of mixed religions or who come
from families that do not have a strong religious background
may choose to have either a non-denominational wedding or a
wedding that blends two separate religions. This can be tricky
however because many religions may not honor or recognize a
wedding unless it is performed according to their own unique
guidelines. For this reason it is very important to check with
potential officiants and church leaders to ensure that your
wedding plans will result in a union that is recognized by both
churches. This is significant because you would not want to
invest time and money on a marriage that will wind up not being
recognized by the church and possibly not even recognized by
the government. Whether a couple decides to have a
non-denominational wedding, incorporate aspects of both
religion into a ceremony that will not be recognized by either
faith or participate in two separate religious ceremonies, it
is important to remember that their love for each other and
their love of their faith are equally important.
If both the bride and the groom have very strong faith
backgrounds and wish to have their wedding recognized by their
respective churches, they may have to take a few extra steps to
ensure that their union is recognized by their churches.
Sometimes the only way to do this is to have a wedding ceremony
in both churches. This may seem like an unnecessary step but
one of the defining criteria of having your marriage recognized
by your faith, for many religions, is to have your wedding
ceremony in the church. It is simply not possible to do this
unless the couple takes the extra steps of having two wedding
ceremonies to ensure that they will be both be accepted as a
married couple into their faiths.
Another alternative to participating in two separate ceremonies
in order to have the union recognized by both churches is to
have a non-denominational wedding that is only recognized by
the government. Couples may choose this option if they do not
have the time or money that would be required to have two
separate wedding ceremonies. A couple may choose a compromise
that results in neither church recognizing the union. The
theory behind this type of choice is that the couple decides
that their love for each other is strong enough to survive and
that they do not need to have the approval of their churches in
order to have a successful and lasting marriage.
Still another alternative is to have a non-denominational
wedding ceremony at a location in a natural setting. At this
type of ceremony the couple has no restrictions and can choose
to incorporate either religion into the ceremony in any way
that they see fit. They may do this by using traditional
prayers and religious songs during the ceremony. While this
type of ceremony will not be recognized by the church is does
offer the couple the opportunity to incorporate some of the
religious traditions of both of their faiths into a beautiful
ceremony that successfully blends two religions.
A final alternative is to incorporate one faith fully into the
wedding ceremony and incorporate the other faith fully into the
wedding reception. This option results in the marriage being
recognized by one of the religions but does not allow the other
family to feel neglected because their faith is well
represented in the traditional activities of the wedding
reception. This option is only feasible if the member of the
couple who will not have their church recognize the union, is
completely accepting and understand of this fact. This is
important because the resentment and jealousy that could result
from this could be very detrimental to the couple.
Inter-faith couples are on the rise. Years ago it was unheard
of to marry someone outside of your faith but this is no longer
true and many couples today are inter-faith couples. It is
difficult but not impossible to integrate the two faiths in a
way that is satisfactory to all of those involved. While the
faiths can be blended to create a beautiful wedding, the
problem is that many churches will not accept this blended
wedding as a union. Sometimes the couple decides that their
happiness together is more important than having the church
recognize the union so they opt for a non-denominational
wedding that is completely devoid of any religious
traditions.
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