The Revenge Affair
Characteristics Of The Adulterer
"I Want to Get Back at Him/Her" is one of
6 kinds of affairs I outline in my E-book.
This is the "revenge affair." It occurs in a marriage in which
one feels slighted in some manner and seeks revenge by engaging
in an affair.
It is less a movement toward the other person and more a
movement away from one’s spouse. The offending spouse usually
lacks the skills of personal confrontation or is frightened by
the prospect of someone "getting upset."
When evaluating this kind of affair, make a distinction between
revenge and rage. Revenge is not rage. Rage comes from a
different source, as outlined in one of the other kinds of
affairs.
Here are some characteristics of the person who uses infidelity
as revenge:
1. Usually is rather unpredictable and erratic in his
behavior.
2. Has a hard time making decisions.
3. Is often impatient and irritable when things don’t go her
way.
4. Some of the resentment seems to “seep out” along the edges,
maybe when you least expect it.
5. Engages in teasing.
6. Can be stubborn and unyielding.
7. May often take oppositional view and pride himself on being
contrary or taking an unpopular stance.
8. Can have moments of impulsive behavior and be labeled
high-strung or tightly wired.
9. Has an underlying worldview that is pessimistic. Glass is
half empty.
10. Has a tendency to wine or complain.
11. May have moments of sullenness and dejection.
12. Women may respond very intensely during their menstrual
cycle. Men may appear very moody at certain times of the
month.
13. Manipulates others with unpredictability and
demandingness.
14. Family of origin often marked by factions and sibling
rivalry.
15. Has difficulty with intimacy since her behavior patterns
push people away.
If you are interested in learning about the 6 other forms of
infidelity I outline in my book, "Break Free From the Affair,"
visit my website.
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